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Stop bein' so easy to call out, then.

[ dave doesn't move his hand while dirk does his reach thing, doesn't pull back. he does turn his head so he's looking at dirk's profile rather than the fabric of his shirt, though. ]

I'd...like it if you were, but even if that is the case - you don't look as much like him now as you will do. You're already you first. But sometimes - I'm off guard? It's not always when I'm off guard. It's just...genetics. How many tics do I have that you've seen in interviews, Dirk? Does it happen to you, too? Just movement, and it doesn't always register but then sometimes it does. You don't really share it most of the time, just - sometimes, once in a blue moon.

[ ... ]

Anyway. I meant to tell you that I'm terminally not interested in any of your splinters. Sorry. You can set up a Sweepstakes for someone else. Rose?

It's completely bizarre to me that you both have the same accent. People in Houston did not talk like that.

[That's answering the question in part, but not really. He continues.]

It's easier for me, I think, because I never really knew mu Bro. The inability to answer a question and a certain manner of holding a smile, yeah, it's familiar. At the same time, he was always an empty space that I filled in with my imagination. Not a lot disorients me because there isn't anything there to throw me off. Your physical presence most of all.

[He doesn't bridge that last movement. He'll stay and rest and wait a little more.]

Rose could easily go for AR over me. He's a pretty fascinating objective of psychological study.

[a pause]

Thanks.

Sure they did. I'm a person from Houston. I admittedly didn't fuckin' talk to people on the regular irl, but I still count, don't I? As to Rose: yeah. You might lose those sweepstakes if she could go toe to toe with someone who deliberately likes to shove fishbowls off of cabinets. I'd place my money on Rose winnin' that, by the way.

[ dave stretches his own fingers but still doesn't close the gap. ]

I'm scared of causin' you specifically trouble because while the whys of Bro's shit don't and didn't matter, they suddenly kinda do if the random hate was caused by anythin' I did, and I do it to you.

Fuck. He was a cat. He was my thirteen year old self as a supercomputer, as a cat.

[That is so stupid why is this so true.

A pause.]

Do you. Want to see a thing I said to Rose? Basically about that.

Do you. Want me to see a thing you said to Rose?

[ THIS IS SO STUPID ]

And yeah, you'd lose to a cat you in a heartbeat with Lalonde. Sorry, dude.

Tragic. I'll just have to resign myself to that.

[There's a pause. And then Dirk sends Dave this, starting from Yes, I see what you mean. A Brobot certainly sounds, well, Bro-ish. and ending with you're welcome..]

I made the mistake, or wise decision, of opening myself up to her pspychoanalytic lens.

[ it's only fair since dirk has read - two? three? did he read the komaeda one in full? - conversations of dave's today but it requires dave to shift a little, drawing his communicator up while still not moving his hand from his knee or really leaning away from dirk.

dirk's said before he'd find it impossible to hate dave. even so, dave has always found it more a miracle he doesn't. ]

I'm pretty sure you'd get a lot of arguments on the me bein' charmin' thing if you asked around.

I didn't say you were exclusively charmin', just that you must've been a damn cute baby.

[So there. Dirk should probably find three conversations to give Dave, but he has quite a number of his in person. He glances over at him.]

I wanted to share because... we're scared of the same thing, but we assume opposite causes. You worry there's something about you that could make me hate you. I'm pretty sure there is something fundamentally wrong with me if I'm capable of failing to love you when the universe hands you to me on a horse-corpse platter.

"He can pretty much still do it now." You literally said I was charmin' and it's current?

[ LITERALLY YOU SENT IT TO DAVE IN TEXT, DIRK, WHAT NOW? even though dave is like "haha sounds fake though". ]

The only thing fundamentally wrong with you is your fashion sense.

Okay, I'm going to need you to delete that off of your communicator.

[you BRAT says dirk, constantly adoring and loving dave. pathetic.]

My fashion sense is awesome.

It's mine, you gave it to me, even if it is wrong.

[ dave says, like he can't actually turn on charm when he tries. USUALLY WITH KIDS OR HOMURA THESE DAYS. ]

So, you think I have PTSD. [ no. try again. a breath. he curls his fingertips up just enough to brush dirk's. ] I...have PTSD.

[ saying either phrase is impossible to do in the annoyingly joking tone he'd been using earlier about the charm thing, but even so dave shoots for light and unbothered. it'd pass if anyone else were the judge, but it sounds slightly manic to anyone who actually knows what he sounds like when - well, when he sounds slightly manic. the list is pretty damn small. ]

[There it comes. Dirk hears the breath and feels the touch. He measures his own breath, stays calm. Tries to give that calm back to Dave as best as he can.]

I can't diagnose it or anything. I'm not a psychiatric professional, and I have a ten minute dissertation on mental health labelling and 21st century pathologizing that I'm not going to dump on you right now, unless you want to hear it, in which case we can talk about the history of the DSM and how homosexuality was considered a mental disorder by it up until the 1970s.

[pause. so much for calm.]

Sorry. Does... it help to think about it like that? To put a name to the things you sometimes experience and feel.

I don't know.

[ it's not a dodge. or it isn't meant to be one. ]

I never used to try to name things. Even the whole...not 100% straight thing I didn't really try to, like, label for a long time. Let alone anything bigger. I'll let you know when I figure it out? [ ... ] What's the dissertation's main points?

Pathologizing is a way of containing and controlling deviations from the norm, which means that anything that seems like a problem to a contemporary society is considered either crime or disease. That's how homosexuality ended up in there. It was deemed harmful to society and the person who had it. In this case, and in others, it is a way to identify, contain, and then punish those who don't obey social conventions.

Diagnoses and labels from the DSM control and regulate what is or isn't worthy of treatment. There was, for example, a major controversy about gender dysphoria being in the DSM because it indicates that gender non-conformity is illness, but takin' it out meant that insurance companies wouldn't relegate funding to people who wanted hormone therapy or reassignment surgery. Its decisions on these things therefore make determinations on resource allocation.

The DSM rigidly defines mental problems as binary, on-or-off. You meet a certain number of symptoms, therefore you have the disease. You don't, so you're fine. Individual details get lost under the broadness and rigidity of labelling and people slip through the cracks or get categorized and treated in ways that don't help them. This is resource allocation again, as well as errors in methodology.

Treating this sort of thing as a question of mental illness, which is to say disease, is in some respects metaphorical. That is, in common language, disease and illness are considered problems of a biological nature with the body which need to be treated to restore the body to a fully functioning state. It doesn't refer to the mind which is sometimes a matter of a chemical unbalance, yes, but sometimes it's environmental damage, sometimes it is not following the standard demonstration of things, sometimes it's habits and behaviors, sometimes it's a state of being that you'd like to get surgery to fix. Pulling all of that together under the concept of disease turns those which are not biological problems into metaphors of biology. It makes pathology out of things that aren't from literal pathogens.

[The main points are not brief. Sorry, Dave. He pauses, then.]

One of the reasons I don't like to term myself 'gay' is because I don't like the idea of being part of a culture that limits and defines me by my sexuality. At the same time, I understand how important it was to identify that way for people in the past. It gave them an identity to form communities with, a way to find each other and to organize for political action. For some people, saying it made it real or helped them understand themselves better. When it came to labelling my sexuality, I've always felt false and caged in, in the manner of needing to live up to certain expectations and requirements. So it isn't a thing that helps me, and it bothers me when others apply that label to me.

I think all the same things about labels in sexuality carry through over. It can be damaging and limiting, and you can lose yourself under generalities and expectations. But. [Dirk looks down. It's still hard to say, and his words slow over it.] It helped when you said I was suicidal? It made it feel more like a valid thing I could ask for help with, instead of just a thing that was fundamentally broken about me because I am in every possible way a failure at being a human being.

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[ like dirk did when dave brought up hal, dave kind of groans but then just. lets the dissertation he asked for happen. it helps, but not because of the information. he's been known to ask rose to ramble at him to distract him, and that was halfway why he asked dirk what it was he wanted to say on the topic.

he won't interrupt. he can actually listen when he tries to. but at the end dave will sit up straight. ish. which means he pulls his head off of dirk's shoulder. he doesn't stop the really quite frankly pathetic barely finger touching thing that is happening or scoot backwards, though? so this situation is just kind of dumb directly in dirk's space but making contact only very strangely. ]

Do you ever listen to yourself speak? You even said it earlier. Is that...is that how you think about it now? That you're not broken or a failure or anything else. You're just a kid adapting to a new not so hot situation after thirteen years of a crap one and three more of a sucky one?

[ does it help to think about it like that? ]

No. It doesn't help, exactly, not...always. I don't like thinkin' about...illnesses or diseases like you said. Rose callin' it what it was at the volcano...helped. Because I didn't want to have to say what it was to her, so I just explained it, and let her name it. Sometimes - sometimes I think calling it by name helps. But mostly - mostly what helps, when I'm not disbelievin' it, is you tellin' me it's okay not to be okay.

[ and out of a sense of fairness: ]

I don't mind the label of bisexual, exactly, but I don't really like the expectation that I have to be one way or the other and that I have to actually say either?

[There's a moment of panic when Dave sits up straight and then Dirk parses what he means and. Oh. Right.]

You're calling me a hypocrite again. You must really like reaching that level of metahypocrisy.

[HE IS SAYING. He has to say it. But, you know, the listening thing. He will follow along.]

I'm trying to think of it like that more. It's on and off. But... the thing that it's okay not to be okay. That's really all I was trying to say. Whether or not you've got a label for what's going on is irrelevant to the fact that it's okay for you not to be okay.

[beat]

My research into the 21st century indicated American culture was really idiotic about bisexuality.

Fun family bondin' activity. You call me a hypocrite while you're bein' a hypocrite and I call you a hypocrite about that and then it all starts all over again. Or well it ain't fun exactly, but this is apparently the dumbass paradox cycle we're lockin' ourselves into here.

[ metahypocrisy: the saga. ]

I'll...work on tryin' to believe you about it. [ it had been a relief to believe it for a few minutes here and there? dave gestures to dirk's communicator with his free non fingertips touching hand why is that still a thing ] Things like that make me think - it isn't. But if you try, I'll try.

[ there's another out to take here rather than discussing that, though, so ]

21st century American culture was idiotic about a lot of things, but yeah in general when it existed in the media it was like, you know. Weird in a lot of ways. Did the whole you liking x y z is a phase because you also like a, and that's easier, or...whatnot? I honestly did not spend much time thinkin' about sexuality like at all as a kid. I mean, I regurgitated whatever I absorbed through the media, but I never sat down and thought about it. It straight up did not matter to me at the time. And most of the macho bullshit I spewed was because I thought it'd, you know, be what Bro wanted and also just to hide insecurity central. So.

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All of our family bondin' activities are fun. [That particular g-drop was indeed to tease Dave.

He softens, though.]

Working on it is good. We can both put that in our columns. Beside eating regularly.

[They are very not okay, collectively. The out is kinda interesting to Dirk? He's always found it fascinating. Except the last part catches his attention and.]

Wait. Did you. Did you think your Bro was straight?

I guess??? Dirk, I did my best to never think about Bro and sex at the same time and he made it really hard. I didn't want to know, I guess? And he was like.

[ how to put it. dirk saw a lot, but clearly this part didn't like...carry over. ]

He was like the dudebro kinda 21st century guy you'd absolutely fuckin' hate. Maybe it was "ironic" and I just wasn't a high enough tier to understanding it like always, but all the stereotypical gamer guy skateboarder magazine tropes basically held true and he adhered to them like it was the fuckin' Art of War or just part of the irony ninja honorcode. When gay shit came up, it was mostly the, you know, haha that's soooooooo gay kinda thing or for laughs or what the fuck ever. Not that we talked? But he like. Wrote shit on blogs sometimes or wrote reviews on the magazines. It was all mostly unsettling on some level. I mean, I guess the naked guy dolls handcuffed together should've maybe been a tip off? But I'm really good at just, tryin' not to see sex toys or items when I do not want to, bein' buried in fuckin' sex puppets aside since at that point it is hard to just play it cool and pretend you're not seein' what you are seein'. That stuff was just always around, so it never...stuck out.

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I. Have a lot of concern for the unsettling aura of inappropriate sexual content, and definitely that's top tier in my critiques of his parenting, you know, below the actual physical abuse and mind games and traps, but still pretty high up there, and maybe those are things to address and we can do that now if you want, but he.

I was a dudebro?

[help him]

Yes??? Was that not. Obvious. I haven't made that obvious. Shit you didn't know me when I was thirteen years old.

[ dave makes a face. ]

Like, the shit I did for the ironies was all mostly shit he did on some level or another for...maybe? The irony? I can't for sure say that. He did like...some cool stuff? He was good with computers or whatever and had some ideas that might not be all bad, like I said, but which I was in no position to like appreciate or pay much attention to? But even then you have...way different ideas. But everythin' was always so extreme with him and it was usually just not in a good way and in retrospect he honestly seems more like a caricature or just a violent robot so I'm not really sure "dudebro" is even the correct term, it's just that like, a lot of the shit he was into was along those lines and I picked it up because...reasons.

Oh my God, why is my alternate universe self so unpalatable on every imaginable level.

[JUST LEAVE HIM HEAR TO DIE he puts his face in a hand. Only one hand because he's keeping that other hand there barely not much at all making contact with Dave's hand. BUT THIS HAND, THE FREE HAND. It's the hand for pain.]

Also. I will never bring up sex near you ever again. Sorry for every time I alluded to it ever.

Just. Don't ask Rose for examples of the shit I said at that age. I talked a big game about absolutely fuck all and at least when I talk about nothin' these days it ain't like that.

[ talking himself up. actually, he has generally started to do the reverse.

he still prefers it. ]

Is...what, really? Is that what you wanted to...address re: "inappropriate sexual content"? [ does this mean dirk won't give him condoms again praise be ]

Yes. Sorry? I didn't really think about. I'm sorry.

[He will die now and never ever ever even tease Dave about handholding again.]

Hoooow could you have known? I like. Told you about puppet porn sites and the puppet cabal, but I...

[ ... ]

It is kind of hard to convey the level to which Bro did anything with words only.

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