No! No, this isn't that. This is working things out.
[Now he feels bad. Now he feels like he hurt Dave in a different way.]
This is why it isn't fair. It's when we were in the alien base and you started trying to set up the pieces so you could stop me from forcing you to let me move into the tower.
It isn't fair because that's on me. I can't ask you not to feel attacked by me when I'm the one who's making you feel attacked. Whether or not I mean to do it, it's a thing I need to work on for you, and not a thing you need to not do to me. So it's on my list for myself. I think I can do better at it now that I understand more about our situations.
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[Now he feels bad. Now he feels like he hurt Dave in a different way.]
This is why it isn't fair. It's when we were in the alien base and you started trying to set up the pieces so you could stop me from forcing you to let me move into the tower.
It isn't fair because that's on me. I can't ask you not to feel attacked by me when I'm the one who's making you feel attacked. Whether or not I mean to do it, it's a thing I need to work on for you, and not a thing you need to not do to me. So it's on my list for myself. I think I can do better at it now that I understand more about our situations.