I had only dated dudes before I started dating my girlfriend, so up until that point, all of the data in my history would've pointed toward my not being into chicks, on account of my 100% dude-dating.
have you ever like had a weird fondness for someone who didnt swing your way you said you were a disaster at one point did you do that particular disaster
That's why I used it for you, to afford you the plausible deniability of having never actually said it yourself.
I don't know that I've ever had that particular experience, but I've definitely had a crush on someone I shouldn't have before. Someone for whom if I were to confess the crush and have it go badly, it would've gone REALLY BADLY.
Well, for one thing I'd tell myself to remember to ask myself why it is I'm convinced that it IS going to go badly. I think it's easy, in a situation like that, to fixate on the absolute worst possible scenario. That's natural, because when preparing yourself for something, it's natural to prepare for the worst.
But that also means expecting the worst out of the person you have a crush on. And I think it's worth asking yourself — myself — why it is I'm so quick to do that.
It didn't, believe it or not. That doesn't mean it was easy, or that I didn't have to sometimes make some hard choices in the process. But it wasn't catastrophic by any means.
I think even when it comes to someone you love, there will be things about them that bother you, or that aren't perfectly compatible with you. Part of loving them is being able to work out those issues responsibly, and finding ways to address them.
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I had only dated dudes before I started dating my girlfriend, so up until that point, all of the data in my history would've pointed toward my not being into chicks, on account of my 100% dude-dating.
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although admittedly
i am not sure the rock qualifies there?
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The Rock does what he wants, in bed or otherwise.
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he kind of seems like he totally could have a body count
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hed be like the thigh avenger
so hey unrelated question
can i ask you a nosy question
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But go ahead and ask me another nosy question, of course. I don't mind.
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had a weird fondness for someone who didnt swing your way
you said you were a disaster at one point did you do that particular disaster
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not because its like hypothetically an inaccurate word
i just wouldnt use it
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I don't know that I've ever had that particular experience, but I've definitely had a crush on someone I shouldn't have before. Someone for whom if I were to confess the crush and have it go badly, it would've gone REALLY BADLY.
So I think I can say a definite "sort of".
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what tips would you give past you about that
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But that also means expecting the worst out of the person you have a crush on. And I think it's worth asking yourself — myself — why it is I'm so quick to do that.
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platonic or otherwise
sometimes they seem like it but you do have to work at them
a LOT
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I think even when it comes to someone you love, there will be things about them that bother you, or that aren't perfectly compatible with you. Part of loving them is being able to work out those issues responsibly, and finding ways to address them.
But it's a LOT of work.
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i usually just try to kill every single part of me that isnt working out
but for some reason
this pisses people off
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It seems like it'd be so much easier to just make yourself perfect and then it'd be fine, wouldn't it.
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before like i wasnt good enough about lying about it
one time
people are terrible
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hes the one shining point of purity in every universe