I think it's probably more related to what you'd do it with that makes it flattering or unflattering; the context is important. Sometimes it's really nice not to be in charge. I'm not sure if you ever feel like that, though.

[ he's also not sure if he should feel like that? although he also doesn't like to cede control in situations that hit too close to home, but. being the leader of anything had never appealed to dave. the closest he's gotten is enjoying being in charge of their training sessions. ]