[Dirk is notably not bothered by this at all. Like, super disturbed by his own fuck-ups still, but totally at ease with the conversation in this phrase.]

Rose is right. Putting the things you can't handle to the side while you sort out your things is usually a pretty good idea. Especially in terms of this, it's fraught with issues if you push yourself past your comfort zone. There's a reason me and Jake firmly kept ourselves to friends-only contact until we had done more work on ourselves and our relationship. You just really are better off not tangling things up worse forcing yourself to bring that in at the moment.