I'm definitely taking offence to her calling me a people pleaser. I can't say she's wrong in the specific sense she used, but I'm taking offence to it nonetheless.
[A pause]
I was joking about the forwarding, by the way.
[He thinks it's best if they don't, for the sake of Dave's privacy. A pause.]
Maybe we should talk about... me. And how I relate to the people I love, and the sacrifices I'm willing to make, or not, for them. It might help you understand better. We've spent a lot of time with me trying to understand you, and recent discussions seem to be pointing that I have been neglectful in returning that.
So... the people pleasing, and the trust, and the saying 'no' all sort of come together. And we can start by establishing that, and how I am, so that you understand the position I'm coming from when it comes to our decisions. And the reverse, if you feel a desire or need to clarify things on your side.
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[A pause]
I was joking about the forwarding, by the way.
[He thinks it's best if they don't, for the sake of Dave's privacy. A pause.]
Maybe we should talk about... me. And how I relate to the people I love, and the sacrifices I'm willing to make, or not, for them. It might help you understand better. We've spent a lot of time with me trying to understand you, and recent discussions seem to be pointing that I have been neglectful in returning that.
So... the people pleasing, and the trust, and the saying 'no' all sort of come together. And we can start by establishing that, and how I am, so that you understand the position I'm coming from when it comes to our decisions. And the reverse, if you feel a desire or need to clarify things on your side.