[Dirk actually climbs because honestly this kid climbed the skeleton of an apartment building at age 0 clearly this is just a thing he likes to do. He perches himself on a branch and just.]

I think, if we're going to discuss the issue of decisions made between us, and the decisions we make going forward, we should probably start with the basic question of whether or not we're both capable of exercising agency in this relationship. Specifically, how good or bad we are at saying 'no' to each other.