[That is also unfair. What a jerk. Dirk's frowning and then he looks away and it's obviously. Not easy for him to ask for.]

I want to... not. With you responding to me as an enemy. Or attacker? With the negotiations and manoeuvrings and peace offerings. I want you to not act like I'm going to hurt you. [His eyes come back, and yeah, this is really getting to him, but it's because of how unfair it is, about how much he doesn't want it but how much it needs to be a thing.] Which is why it isn't a fair thing. I have hurt you and you have every right to try to protect yourself against me. It isn't cool to ask you to not protect yourself, and I wouldn't want you to not be protected.

[He just doesn't want the person Dave has to defend himself from to be Dirk. And that's Dirk's fault that it is.]