Yeah, but why are we both so emotionally constipated that neither of us see our own goddamn problems until someone puts them on neon marquee signs? Do we blame you or me for that?

[ legitimate question. ]

Let's give you another minute to see if you can guess it before we cop to bein' that bad on both sides. Should I give you what I don't want and what I want to work on first? While you try to think up an actual item for your list.