[He's still very calm. Jake said to lay his cards all out on the table. So, he does.]
You didn't do anything like your Bro did. I don't need to have met him to know that. I've been taking responsibility for your Bro, and for you, more than I should.
I want to try to stop that. You can help me, but pulling back on this won't do the job. I need you to keep talking to me about him or I'll know that I made too much of a disaster out of this for us to come back from.
What would actually help would be if you were to tell me what you were okay with and what you weren't. Honestly, not holding back. I won't spend all my time second-guessing what I'm doing, trying to twist everything to suit you without ever risking asking you about it.
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[He's still very calm. Jake said to lay his cards all out on the table. So, he does.]
You didn't do anything like your Bro did. I don't need to have met him to know that. I've been taking responsibility for your Bro, and for you, more than I should.
I want to try to stop that. You can help me, but pulling back on this won't do the job. I need you to keep talking to me about him or I'll know that I made too much of a disaster out of this for us to come back from.
What would actually help would be if you were to tell me what you were okay with and what you weren't. Honestly, not holding back. I won't spend all my time second-guessing what I'm doing, trying to twist everything to suit you without ever risking asking you about it.
We can work things out together.