John, I can be patient for you, that isn't a problem.

[ the frown's still there. ]

I just...what I am trying and failing to say is that I don't want you to cut yourself to pieces to keep me...whatever. If you are sure that is a thing you aren't doin', fine, but I know what that is, and that you can't always see people doing it, and that when they do the point is you won't see. I just...don't want this to be about that. Ever.