[But they do. And that's what matters. They do, and they hurt Dave, and Dirk wants to stop doing them. He wants to know and go forward.

He can't force Dave to do anything. Won't that hurt more? When he speaks, he isn't forceful. It's more of an observation, something he thinks Dave maybe already knows.]

I don't know how much 'shouldn't matters anymore, either. It's what it is, and burying it doesn't mean workin' on it. It just means... having it.